Day 3 - A return to chores

So after a 3 day absence from real life and thus my chores I went into the kitchen today and did all my dishes. Not that there were many, we are a small family. Yet still catching up to my chores with my daughter around and tending to my job as well, it's a full days work. I still have yet to wash the floor since Friday and I think I forgot some laundry in the Dryer on Saturday. *yawn*

Aside from my return to chores there was the forced realization of just how much the phones have been ringing this week...and how much time I've been on them. All three of my phones died spontaneously tonight! GAH!

Another self-realization was that I shouldn't headbang with my daughter no matter how excited I am to be engaged or how cute Willow Smith is. My neck...it kills me right now! I'll leave the hair whipping to my daughter from now on!!!

Lastly I need sleep, I'm getting wedding color inspiration from everything now. Earlier today, while my fiancée was rubbing my sore, whiplashed neck, I saw my painted finger nails and toenails next to each other. My toes have a dark pink wine color and the fingers are a lighter shade of pink. I bragged my flexibility as I lifted my foot over my head and asked him, "Honey, what do you think of these for the wedding colors." Bless him he didn't mock or tease, mostly because he could never lift his foot like that, he simply grunted, "I ah na" and made with the lotion for my shoulders.

I didn't expect to get quite this excited about the prospect of a wedding but now that we've put a title to everything it just seems more real.

I have drawn one conclusion and am glad to be arriving at a level of cynicism I'm more accustomed to. I found myself a little lip-curl when someone said, "So you finally got him to ask the question!" I resent that phrasing. I didn't hold his hand behind his back and demand he propose with my knee pushed into his ribs. When I told him this he laughed and said he obviously didn't get that comment but he would get the, "Finally making an honest woman out of her eh?" Since when were we foul? I didn't realize we stunk of single-life and cheap sex! I thought we were living a pretty wholesome life. Guess I was wrong.

On a serious note I know these people mean well but it's similar to the statement to the pregnant woman who is 2 weeks late, "The baby will come when it wants to." What are they trying to say? My baby doesn't want to meet me?! Thanks! Sometimes "congratulations" is a better turned phrase. ;)

Off to bed 10 minutes early tonight, that is if I can convince myself to stay off the knot shop. 

Later, your hippie bride

Day 2 - continued glee

It seems the phone doesn't stop ringing lately. Everyone wants to know, how did he ask? What did you say? Were you surprised? When did he ask? Where did he ask? What does the ring look like? When are you getting married?

I don't mind answering and in fact I go over the details at night by myself. But the big thing is the wedding seems that much more real now. We've been planning this wedding since 2007 and now I can talk about it and not sound like the crazy desperate spinster who is in denial. The ring on my finger removes all doubt. I'm getting married.

I didn't work out too many new  details today, spoke to more people and just walked around glancing at my hand and thinking, "wow...it's really real..." I'm more than excited to marry my best friend and wish now that I'd been a little more spinstery and had more planning done for I would love if  I could have this wedding in 3 months!

I did find time to make some foolish video to announce our engagement. I also learned that throwing rice does not make birds blow up. I'm relatively disappointed in myself for not having already snope verified that one years ago. *facepalm* The productive part of the day was spent decorating our tree together.

Alas, today I am thinking colors. I'm torn between deep pinks, reds, blues, whites... everything looks so nice. I don't know what I'm going to do. I don't want to move forward with any one thing until I tackle another. I don't like the idea of unfinished business. I need to decide on my colors before I move forward because decorations depend on my theme.

I know I want to be non-traditional, non-denominational and something that is close to home for us. There will be a lot of "kal Ho Naa Ho" integrated into the wedding. I won't reveal too much in this blog as far as these things are concerned because some things are intended to be a secret until the day. But I think anyone who knows us knows how much the movie "Kal Ho Naa Ho" means to us and the music. Songs from Kal Ho Naa Ho and Dil Se Re always take us back to when we first started dating. I've listened to Kal Ho Naa Ho every night since we became engaged. Just makes me feel that little extra burst of love that I felt when we were younger. The suspense, the anticipation, the unknownn.  All those feelings come back and I just can't wait for those next steps down the aisle. But one thing I know is I don't want to wish away this moment now. Too often we are so anxious for the next step we forget to embrace today. I've always avoided that in the past and I will continue to do so. I'm going to enjoy being engaged because I'm only going to be engaged once.

I'll live life to the fullest, kal ho na ho {tomorrow may not be}


Here it is 12:39 am and once again I'm up late unable to sleep. The house is quiet and so I must plan my tomorrow. Good night, your hippie bride.

Day 1 - The silly behavior

Hello,
We have finished day one of my engagement. I have been planning the actual wedding for almost 4 years now. You'd think the engagement would change very little in my behavior as it's such common place for me now......You'd be wrong!

I spent today basking in the glow of my ring and adding every possible wedding related thing to my facebook. Okay, so they were already added, but I updated them to "engaged" and posted the updates to my wall. Juvenile? Most definitely! I couldn't help it, I've been imaging this moment from my childhood. The excitement was bound to surface.

But, to give myself some credit I was slightly practical. I spent about 15 minutes confirming my guest list, the one I'd started in 2007, to ensure I was still friends with the people on it. I then went through it with a fine toothed comb to remove any of those "obligatory invites" that I really didn't like. If they are offended they are not there than they aren't really that happy for me... I'm the bride, I'm allowed to be selective.

After finalizing my guest list I made the seating plan. I used the data base at the knot shop to do this. It creates an image for you and you can ensure Grandma Sue doesn't sit near her ex husband Grampa Joe because the two of them would just stir up drama. You also want to sit the cranky Miss Finster with the cynical Mrs. Dupis, this way they won't depress anyone else with their complaints about the dry food. You put the chipper Ms. Doyle next to the young folk and make sure to keep Cousin Frank away from the gift table, he's a bit of a kleptomaniac!

I was impressed with how easy it was to put my relatives far away from the relatives they hated and separate tables and move friends near friends. Then I matched up friends who only know me and no one else with people I felt they would most mesh with. Once it was done I had a picture in front of me that made it all so much more real. When my fiancée realized what I was doing he made a slightly nervous face. I believe he realizes that his life has changed the moment he put a ring on my finger.

For instance he doesn't share the bed with me anymore. Not because he snores, but because I'm staying up until 1am updating social utilities that I don't use anymore. Such as Myspace and Orkut. I even went as far as to log into old e-mails and confirm they said I was engaged. Yup, I'm basking. Basking in the sparkly glow... I'm also falling asleep at the keyboard. *faint*

That's all for now, your hippie bride, Bwings