Tuesday, December 27, 2011

Day 403 - Family is what you make of it

After a long day and a lot of thinking I have come to this thought regarding my former family who is no longer a part of my life.

"Before I can welcome you into my life, you must welcome my family into yours. My fiancé and my daughter are my whole life and without them there is no me! Those are just the rules, you live with them or walk away. I'm fine either way, the decision is yours in the end. But unless my fiancé feels welcome in your home... it is not a home I wish to enter."

It is a long path and there is a lot of healing ahead...I'm not sure we'll ever be a family but at least I've reached a place of peace with it and am willing to open my doors....even if no one knocked. :(

<3 your thoughtful hippie bride

Sunday, November 20, 2011

Day 365 - ONE YEAR OF PLANNING!

A year of planning behind us we have been engaged now for 365 days and only 246 to go! WOW! I love my fiancé more each and every day. It's been an amazing birthday and now to call it a night and rest myself for more planning for the next 246 days! :)

<3 your hippie bride

Thursday, November 17, 2011

Day 363 - Hotels for hire

I have been missing summer already, it feels like just yesterday it was so nice out and we were running around in our summer best. Sweaters are coming out of storage and the sun is disappearing. But this summer will be better! <3 250 <3

I'm currently looking into the Radisson, Delta and Courtyard Marriot for hotel options. I just don't know how they are as I've never stayed in one before. I don't travel often.

I know what I want in a hotel but I doubt it'll exist. I'm all about the view. :)

<3 your hippie bride

Wednesday, November 16, 2011

Day 362 - Surprise!!

WOW! Today I received my first wedding present from a friend whom I've never actually met. So unexpected and completely appreciated. The question is, do I open it now or save it until my birthday in 4 days, Christmas in a month and some weeks or my bridal shower in may. :p

I'm completely touched and surprised. Thank you so much Evelien!

<3 your hippie bride

Tuesday, November 15, 2011

Day 361 - Nightmares again

Typically my dreams turn into nightmares around the aspect that has not been planned yet. For instance, I have had nightmares that it was the wedding day and the men didn't have their tuxes. Another where my girls showed up in casual clothes and in some cases nightshirts. I had on where we showed up at the venue and did not have food (before I selected the food options.) OH MY GOODNESS Before I had selected a venue I had a nightmare that people showed up at our place on the wedding day and weren't sure where the wedding was. I'll be happy when I finish the booking and planning all the details so these nightmares can just be dreams!

It's funny though because I am not stressed about the particular problems until the nightmare. Then that morning it's all I can think about. I guess they keep me from procrastinating though. :)

<3 your nervous hippie bride.

Saturday, November 12, 2011

Day 358 - That was easy!

I was absolutely thrilled to have all my girls in one spot at once. as much as each may not be as close to the other as much as I am close to each of them it really is so nice to have them all together. 

As it turns out I will have one less bridesmaid than initially anticipated but it is with no drama and without heavy heart. I know it is for the best considering her current changes in life and where life is taking her. We are still great friends and will still be in touch. I'm glad she was honest with herself and I when I brought it up because I would have hated for her to put down a hefty deposit and then regret it later.

As far as picking the dress goes, it was actually really easy. All the girls agreed on one dress and although the original plan was for the maid of honor to have a different color combination than the bridesmaids they all loved the same combo. So instead we will make something else personal, perhaps a different color on her bouquet etc. 

girls in deep though (42)

It has been decided! 
 After dress shopping was complete it was off with my Maid of Honor to do some more bridal accessory shopping. With our daughters in tow of course. My daughter found this adorable lace umbrella and then gestured for the rain to come down.
 

<3 your hippie bride

Friday, November 11, 2011

Day 357 - Changes

Been meaning/needing to get the girls together to decide on a bridemaids dress. We have a general idea of what we all want in a dress but I'm a little apprehensive that we aren't going to find it.
Also, on a topic I don't really wish to discuss here but as part of the blog I guess it is part of the wedding planning game that I'm sure every bride has encountered. The subtle changes in bridal party. Although it is possible that nothing will change... I have this feeling on the breeze that something is amiss, something is about to or should change for the ease and comfort of all involved.

Normally, or at least what I perceive as normally, there is some big dramatic closing when a bridesmaid/MOH/Groomsman/BM back out. You know, a big dramatic fight and tears followed by a giant tub of rocky-road and eventually a reconsilliation either just before the wedding or months after. That is how I've known it to happen in the past. The difference here is it's not drama (at least not right now) it's more changes in life that make me feel it would be appropriate to at least offer the opportunity for a change in bridal party. This is a longer than usual engagement as well which of course lends opportunity for changes in life to drastically effect relations over time.

Long story short, I feel as though one of my bridesmaids might be a bridesmaid currently mostly out of obligation. Again, nothing to do with our friendship but there will be distance between us soon among other apparent things and so as much as I am excited about tomorrow I am apprehensive as well. But I trust that our friendship is close enough that I can bring this up without damning it. Obviously if I am wrong and she still wants to be a bridesmaid then I will welcome the challenge of the distance and any other things to come our way. I just don't want to make this any harder on her than it needs to be.

As a result this post will remain a draft until after we talk.

<3 your compassionate hippie bride


Edit: Boy did I forget about this post :p

Wednesday, November 9, 2011

Day 355 - Honeymooners

Our honeymoon is a very basic honeymoon. It is more important to us that we get out of debt, get a house among so many other things in our life than we go to some foreign country with our daughter and spend time basking in the sun. However, a girl can dream, so while I have already discussed our honeymoon plans with the other half I figured there was no harm in researching the cost of a honeymoon were we to do something more adventurous.

I thought, "Disney! There is a standard vacation option." I looked it up thinking it would be a pretty straight forward, "cost to enter the park. Bracelets, tickets etc." WRONG All I learned about booking a trip to Disney world/land (either) is that it is very confusing! 0_0

I already knew it was expensive no lesson learned there and I feel we definitely made the right choice in saving for a house over going to Disney, at least for now.

<3 your honeymooning hippie bride

Monday, November 7, 2011

Day 353 - WHOOPS

As you know I am a DIY bride. Among the things I am DIYing there are my bouquets, my invitations and yes even our first dance. So focused am I that I will sometimes rehearse while in the shower. I have learned that THIS is likely not the best venue for practicing your wedding dance choreography. Not a shower activity, lesson learned *whoops*

The positive aspect is that I now have the first minute of our dance rehearsed....now I must go melt into something really cold and refreshing.

<3 your sweaty hippie bride

Sunday, November 6, 2011

Day 352 - Dressed to impress...the budget

I'm struggling with the idea of spending too much money on my flower girl dresses. I want something adorable and appropriate but I do not want to spend too much money on it because it will definitely get stained if I do. Isn't that how it works? I think it would hurt to spend $40 on the dresses and I'd much rather pay $20 or less. It's a kids dress, she's going to wear it a few times maybe when playing dress up. It'll be shoved aside in her memorabilia stuff and that's about it. General prices for flower girl dresses lean around $60-$70 so I don't have high hopes right now.

I passed several high school students in the past little bit and I have noticed that most kids now walk around wearing sweatpants. What is with that? Fashion has gone out the window and it's all about comfort? As I reflected on that I thought of my relationship and laughed that you could describe us as fitting together like high school sweatpants. I said this to a few friends who were disgusted with this comparison and insisted I find a better one. I returned with the statement, "I did not realize just how strong my love for him was until he failed to pass the approval test with my parents" This, given my lack of a relationship with my family, was approved by all.

<3 your hippie bride

Saturday, November 5, 2011

Day 351- Thought for the day

Thought for the day:
"The greatest pre-nuptial agreement is love" <3 261 <3

Tuesday, November 1, 2011

Day 347 - Post Halloween invites

My hubby to be is the best the best fiancé ever! And who knew he looked so great in pink?

We took our daughter out trick-or-treating in our bridal fugly with her as a flower girl complete with curlers in her hair. It was super adorable.

 ♥ 265 ♥

I'm sending out the last of the wedding invitations soon. Once that is done I'll have to redesign the invitations a little and send out the open dance invitations. I'm not sure if I made an entry about that final decision, however, to balance the cost of a wedding reception with the desire to have everyone there we have decided to have people for the dance after the ceremony. Of course we ensured each person who would be invited to only the dance understood that it wasn't us shunning them it was us wanting to include them.

<3 your hippie bride

Sunday, October 30, 2011

Day 345 - Seating family

Sat down with my wedding bible today to finalize some details before I move on to the next wedding task. I am debating how to spread my guests out to best avoid black eyes leaving the ceremony. For those family members I have to invite I don't want to sit them too close to each other and cause a brawl.

Maybe the best bet is to have each of my family members in separate corners and everyone else to a table. EXCELLENT!

For most other people the seating chart is simple. I may just place the family members at tables far apart and with the most appropriate yet random people possible.

I'll figure it out in time I'm sure.

<3 your hippie bride

Sunday, October 2, 2011

Day 317 - Delegating duties

One of my favorite presents so far was a wedding planning book that my maid of honor bought for me in the beginning. I have kept it updated as the planning process has continued and with each month I fill my calendar with to-do's and tasks not yet accomplished.

Well, it's October, time to pull out the wedding bible to see what thsi month's to-do list entails and begin delegating duties and budgets.

Friday, September 30, 2011

Day 315 - Milestone moment!

Not really progress update but I realized today that there are now more days behind us than ahead!! We've been engaged for 315 days and only have 297 days until our wedding. We are 51% there! That is incredibly exciting....at least for me it is.

<3 your super excited hippie bride.

Sunday, September 25, 2011

Day 310 - 63% accounted for

Oh, so very addictive. Every day that I can't afford to put money into my wedding I instead input time. Time spent logging in to see if anyone new has RSVP'd.
63% of my guests have RSVPd, there are still more to mail out and we already know that Krista is waiting until May to RSVP .... maybe I shall serve the food in order of RSVP received ;)

I kid... I swear... or do I? :p

Saturday, September 24, 2011

Day 309 - Party Rock was in the house last night!

The party went off wonderfully! :)
The theme, of course, was bridal fugly!
I had a fugly lace dress (old school) with homemade lace buttons that were so small and annoying it's amazing that this was legitimately someone's dress at some point! 



























One of my friend did my hair, it was supposed to be dreadful and dramatic but it ended up kind of nice just not my usual style :p

Wow can you see the size difference between the two of us here?! Oh my gentle giant! 

Terrible picture of me but I use it to show my over the top make up. I learned my lesson, when wearing a full body lace dress....don't wear metal chained beads 0_0 nearly killed myself on several occasions! Oh and David was trying to make our best man look at my ring which I had been attempting to have him notice. 

Everyone's costumes were awesome (I should know, I helped to pick them out and even sewed up a few of them ;p ) However, not everyone would want to be on a blog and so I will only show a few ;)

Our best man wore a red silk-like cowboy ... pj style top :p
Why do people insist on "eating pictures"? :p 

At one point he ended up wearing the beads apparently. Oh and taking pictures with two cameras :p
Not quite sure what we were doing here... oh yes, she was showing the multiple layers of her dress and I said, "I have multiple layers too!!! Then for whatever reason our multiple layers...erm...umm... humped each other? I'm not certain on this but take from it what you will. :p 

Also not sure what I'm doing here either.... I swear drinking was uninvolved in this party! Promise... my best guess is someone compared the color of her red hair to candy and I was implying she was tasty.... I do not remember this happening but it is my best guess


Even the beast got into play with her lovely "flower girl" ensemble. 
Beast getting ready for the party! 

Once everyone had noticed I'd received my ring back from being sized (after losing all my post-baby weight) I then showed it off to everyone. 
 Of course, as per usual in my line of work, the party was interrupted by some drunk (not my guest) who decided to jump a fence (not mine) and break his leg (also not mine :p ) and buzzed someone's apartment (not mine) and someone let him in (not me!) and as a result he became my bloody (literally bloody, bleeding) problem. Fortunately it was late in the night so we just bid our guests adieu and proceeded to get in our landlord scrubs. ;p Ignoring that, the party was so much fun. I should get engaged again so we can have another!!!
And the rest is history!

Thursday, September 22, 2011

Day 307 - PARTY IN THE HIZOUSE!

I am so completely excited for tomorrow. It will be the first real celebration of our engagement since the brunch the morning after with friends! So excited am I that I have been blasting the sunshine pop and hippie tunes while preparing! Only the engagement part of the century!! or year...whateves!

And what's even better is it lands on Hug a Vegetarian day this year! So hip hip horray for this veg bride-to-be :)

I'm going to go sing now.

 ♥ ☮ ♫"Hello lamppost, What cha knowing? I've come to watch your flowers growing. Ain't cha got no rhymes for me? Doot-in' doo-doo, Feelin' groovy." ☮♫ ♥

Friday, September 16, 2011

Day 301 - Addicted to RSVPs

I think I have reached a point where I might actually need clinical help! I log in as soon as I awake and squeal with excitement the moment I see that little rsvp check next to another guest.

However, a downside to this is that other guests who know they should be getting invites and have not yet received them are starting to question our friendship. David and I must hurry and finish up some more envelopes for the mail before we are disowned.

WEEEE WEDDING WEDDING WEDDING

I'm getting married! Yup, yup I am! *dances* 

Thursday, September 15, 2011

Day 300 - Addicted to RSVPs!

Ever since I sent out my wedding invitations I find myself logging in first thing in the morning to see if anyone has RSVP'd.

I can see how this wedding stuff can be completely addicting. I have a small guest list of 50-60 people and everyday I get so excited by new RSVP's. I also smile when they sign my guestbook in addition to rsvping.
So when I woke up this morning to fresh RSVP alerts! I declared aloud, "EXCELLENT!" I love non-procrastinators :) ♥ 312 ♥

Wednesday, September 14, 2011

Day 299 - Gift registries galore

I have a love hate relationship with gift registries. I love that they give people ideas of what to buy you if they are wanting to get you something. I hate that they might make guests feel like they have to buy something or even have to buy something from that registry or that store. However, I am making a list because there are more people that want a list than there are people who might be offended, and those who are offended can either tell me they are offended or deal with it. Right?

I have resolved the issues with my gift registry. Thanks to my best man letting me know. Apparently the sources page was changed and I needed to adjust accordingly.

Of course David and I need to sit down and look at the other registry. Perhaps even go into the store for an official scanning of objects.

But until then, the gift registry is back up and operational.

Oh....and by the way... SPARKLE SPARKLE!!! Picked up my resized wedding set today. All ready for the engagment party, <3 your hippie bride.

Monday, September 12, 2011

Day 297 - Stress melts away

On days like today, when work and work related stressers are piling up around me. When I am completely overwhelmed by those around me and stuff I need to get done but don't have time to do. I simply turn on my wedding playlist, close my eyes and remind myself that in 316 days I will marry my best friend and love of my life.

Within moments nothing else matters ... until I snap back to reality and realize I must wait 316 days! Drat!

With 315 days to go I have removed the password from most pages on our wedding website and it is up and operational. Although, for security reasons, some pages will remain password protected.

Once the deadline passes for RSVPs the whole page will become password protected again and the RSVP tab will be removed.

You know you're emotionally drained when a simple guestbook comment from your best man on your wedding website can bring tears to your eyes. 

Some days it feels a million years away, others it feels like it's around the corner. ♥ I wish it were tomorrow! I would marry David today, yesterday and everyday!  

Sunday, September 11, 2011

Day 296 - RSVP? YES PLEASE!



Invitations are sent out and as I was speaking with one of my guests the other day I was asked an RSVP question, "Do I have to RSVP? You already know I'm coming."

The answer: YES! and just in case anyone else was wondering it is yes for you too.




You see a lot of people think, "OH, I don't need to RSVP they know I'm going." Sure, you and 50 other people? Are we supposed to look at our final RSVP numbers and then add the other 50 people that we are pretty sure are coming? what if we miscount? What if when naming people off the top of our head that we are sure are coming we miss you or say you twice?




Sure I may know that you are coming but I also know that 15 or 25 others are coming. I can't search my list of RSVP's to see if you did or didn't RSVP. When I give numbers to venues I will be looking at the number of RSVPs and if your name isn't there then ... I guess you're not coming.

Hey, I like to think I made it really simple for everyone, it's all done online on our website. No postage, no post office, just a click and you're done.

Friday, September 9, 2011

Day 294 - Bridal fugly!

Our engagement party is coming up, the theme is bridal fugly. As a result I spent the entire day with one of my bridesmaids trying to find the perfect fugly wedding dress!
Here is what didn't make the cut.

She vants to bite your neck! Honestly one of the itchiest and plainest ugly dresses ever

"All we are saying, is give peace a chance!" 

well hello there....welcome to the 70's

Not terrible but I didn't need shoes since I'd be a barefoot hippie all day.

THIS was the dress I wanted...however my bosom once blossomed too much! 
You'll have to wait to see what made the cut. But that last dress... oh it broke my heart to leave it behind, it was EXACTLY what I was looking for! 

Saturday, September 3, 2011

Day 288 - Extreme Couponing Wedding style

All my couponing and sales watching has paid off. Today by paying the rest of my ring off and placing David's back on layaway plus combining my coupon for signing up for their e-mails I was able to save $232.5 off our rings! :) that's not including the original $300 I saved on them initially so all-in-all $532.5 saved.

Better yet, I will have my bridal set in time for the the engagement party. Had to get it resized down 2.5 sizes.

47% through our engagement! That day just keeps getting closer, as days typically do. Now if only my best man would hurry up and submit his RSVP. ;)

<3 your couponing hippie bride 

Sunday, August 28, 2011

Day 282 - Genevieve says yes to the dress

Nothing particularly productive, however my toddler has found her dress!

My daughter and my maid-of-honors daughter were copying us and flipping through bridal magazines. Genevieve ended up getting really into it. :)

The link is relatively private and so can't be embedded. Click here to enjoy. :)

<3 your hippie bride

Saturday, August 27, 2011

Day 281 - Well that was easy

I'm hindu, David is agnostic. Booking a JOP was something I was not sure how to approach. We had originally wanted our friend to marry us. Only to discover that we live in the only province in Canada that no longer permits this. BOOOOOO
Today I bit my bottom lip, sent e-mails to several JOP's and one stuck. Apparently I needn't give a deposit nor sign a contract, I simply tell her I want her and she is mine. That makes me a tad nervous but I am certain closer to the day we'll have something in writing.....won't we? 

Friday, August 26, 2011

Day 280 - Invitations almost in the mail

So after much cutting, pasting, printing, sticking, pasting, cutting and address hunting the invitations are completed and ready to mail....well.... once I get them in envelopes. *whoops* 

Tuesday, August 23, 2011

Day 277 - Hair, hair everywhere!

I'm sure you already know... I'm a hippie. As such, I would like if my wedding would reflect on my style as much as possible while still allowing for me to be a tad bit of a princess too.

Today I browsed hairstyles. I can't decide on exactly what I want done, however, I seem to have gathered quite the collection of similar samples to work with.

smaller flowers, and daisies instead of roses
love the tossed look to this
 More below the fold

Monday, August 22, 2011

Day 276 - Fun ideas!

I seem to just be running around gathering ideas lately. Mostly fun things for the guests and photography areas. 
This one idea popped up on pinterest and although I don't yet have an account I snatched the photo. 
The idea is a scavenger hunt for your guests, I very well may do this.


Day 276 - Take a photo, it lasts longer


Had our engagement photos taken today by Shawn of Artistic Lens Photography. Although I am aware he has a website it is still under construction. I will update with one later.
The morning started off a bit rough, we had foolishly stayed up until 2am watching old episodes of The New Adventures of Superman. I shot awake at 8am and then 9am both times concerned that we should wake. 9:30 work started with a loud annoying buzz at the door and the work phone calls had been ongoing since 8:30 so we gave up on sleeping in and the three of us had breakfast in bed. A quick text to the photographer to solidify times and we were off. I was barefoot for the entire photo shoot, of course, feeding into my hippie ways.






 We had 3 locations selected for our photo shoot. First was the parking lot where it all "began". This is the apartment complex where I lived when David first came to visit me in the city. It is where I was living when we started dating, when he moved in with me and where he would subsequently propose to me years later. So as much as it is only a parking lot to the naked eye, to us it is a starting point.
 
The second location was a drive down the road, it is a look off over the harbour.

 Such a beautiful spot where we would sometimes go to relax together. We had taken many friends there and had ourselves discovered it's existence quite by accident on a road trip one day. The location itself wasn't as meaningful as the other two but it is such a beautiful spot with so much opportunity for beautiful photographs that we simply had to go there.






On our way to the third and final location our poor photographer had a bit of car trouble. This resulted in an adventure addition as we abandoned the car with David and sought out water to help cool the engine. Once this was done it was off to our final destination.

The final destination is the most meaningful of all and is in fact where we intend to have our wedding photographs taken. It is the location we went to the day I knew we would make it as a couple. I had been through the ringer with a previous relationship and had decided to never again date. He had been coming around most days of the week and had therefore stirred up conversation with many friends as to our future relationship. I had shrugged all these off until this day, March 23rd. I had worked that day and the whole time at work I was thinking about all the chores I had to do when I returned home. Laundry, dishes, toilet bowl, tub, carpet, make supper etc. etc. He showed up at the end of my shift to drive me home. I should have known then that something was up. He seemed so happy. I was tired already, thinking about all the chores that waited for me at home. I came inside and went straight to my room where I found my bed made, my laundry done and put away and the floor vacumed. I was shocked, turned on my heel to see him smirking. I peeked over his shoulder and the dishes were done, even the pots. I returned my gaze to him and he smiled, "I even washed the toilet!"
I stood there stunned....what was I to do with this sudden amount of free time? We decided on a roadtrip and ended up at the hill where we took video and pictures of each other goofing off.


We ended up with one, most meaningful picture. Realize that at this point we had not kissed, we were not dating, he was spending night after endless night by my side and although I kept telling him I'd be single forever...he just wouldn't leave. It was such a beautiful day I decided to get a photograph of us looking out over the city. I had him stand so I could position the camera to adjust for his height. Set the timer, ran by his side and at the last moment he put his arm around me. It caught me off guard at first but my walls were being tore down and at that point I knew.

We return to that location every year on March 23rd to take another photograph in celebration of another wonderful year together. Although our anniversary is April 23rd this spot has been monumental in our relationship.

2007

2008

2009

2010

2011

2011 
2011
 Although we didn't go to the exact spot where we take our March 23rd photo due to tourists we did have our photographs taken elsewhere on the hill which is all I had intended anyway.
The next time we go there will be our last March 23rd before we are married. So excited!


 And of course a quick costume change before we were done. :)

There you have it, our engagement photos. Only a sprinkling of them of course. 

Sunday, August 21, 2011

Day 275 - Print, cut, paste, bedazzle, sparkle sparkle

Print, cut, paste...arrange, paste, dry, bedazzle, sparkle sparkle...envelope, slide, address, lick, stamp...send...repeat 50 times!
I have 20 invites made and ready for the mailing. Going to send them in spurts so that I don't lose them as they are made.
This makes it so real...maybe I should hurry and get that venue deposit in. :p

<3 your hippie bride.

Saturday, August 20, 2011

Day 274 - Legal...tender and fine

Well, hubby-to-be wins! After encountering some very near problems last night I am FINALLY updating my expired ID...yeah...expired since 2009....and still hailing from a different province. I guess I'm stuck here for good now. *sigh*

I had planned on doing it regardless as it is a necessary component in acquiring a marriage license. But last night when I was almost not allowed to go into the club due to my expired license.... well time to change up.

And as fun as last night was it was so nice to come home and climb into my best friends arms. Then today I sent out our first wedding invitation!

<3 your hippie bride

Friday, August 19, 2011

Day 273 - SIZE 4?! No way!

Went in as part of my day out with Jenny we stopped by to try on the wedding dress again. It is a lot bigger on me than it was before. Whoops. But it felt amazing! When the consultant put the clip on it to tighten it up properly I was so petite! THAT is the size I want to be on my wedding day! I can hold off on the last 9.4 lbs for post wedding. I felt so beautiful! So ....perfectly weddable. 

After that we went to look at dresses for bridesmaids. While in the dress shop I was encouraged to try on a few dresses. I grabbed a size 8 and found it fit alright. The clerk looked at me and said, "Well that looks alright but let's try this dress *gesturing to another dress* in a 4." I laughed so hard, "There is no way I'm a 4!!" 

Guess what...I was wrong!!!!!

Trying on multiple size 4's were an immediate result of this discovery! 


 <3 your smaller hippie bride!